1. Let’s talk about it
2. The Symptoms
3. The Remedy
4. Tighten Up

Let’s talk about it

Greetings Divine Men and Women,

Welcome to September, a month of promises, endings, and new beginnings. I hope you’ve been well and if not, what has been causing you to feel less than your best?

For me, it was forgetting my worth. I forgot who I was and I found myself running around like a chicken with its head cut off.

Why so graphic?

Because I’m trying to make a point.

In life, we go through challenges for many reasons. One of the most common is because we are afraid to let ourselves shine.

Society gives us a box to fit in. Although we are too big for said box, many of us harm ourselves in different ways to meet this status quo.

Have you ever realized that certain things in life are harder than they need to be or have you ever felt like you were in a never-ending cycle of failure, learning lessons, and never moving forward?

You’re not alone.

Like you, many of us have faced this perpetual cycle of self discovery only to figure out that the hindrances that prevent us from moving forward and thriving is more often times stemming from our own selves. A mouthful, I know, but it’s OK, you can put your load down, you’re among friends here.

Although I can’t say I know the answer to every situation, this may help:

YOU ARE WORTHY OF EVERYTHING YOU WANT

Please, I beg, read that over and over. After you finish reading this blog, leave and come back several times. Repeat until it is etched permanently into your brain like a tattoo.

Many times, we hold ourselves back from what we really want because yes, we may be afraid, but also, because we do not deem ourselves worthy of having whatever that thing is. It could be a career, goal, business, family, lifestyle, talent, relationship, material possession, etc. The list is endless.

We do not think we deserve it, so, we find every excuse and fear in the book that prevents us from having it. Like Billie Eilish and many others before her said, “I think, therefore I am.”

On another note, have you ever heard, “Be afraid and do it anyway?”

It’s a real quote and practice but it is also really hard to do if we feel as if we do not deserve the object of our affection or attention. Simply put, our lives are a reflection of what we think of ourselves presently or in the past.

The Symptoms

This can show up in many ways that are not listed below, but here are some timeless symptoms of low self worth aka diffidence:

• Things take forever to happen in your life
• You give up a lot
• You settle for whatever comes your way
• You’re not happy with your life
• You’re scared to go after what you want
• You self sabotage
• You find every excuse to stop progress or anything new
• You get depressed sporadically or when you think about your life
• You’re not motivated
• External parties can easily influence you
• You’re struggling in a few areas in your life (finances, romance, family, etc.)
• You don’t want to be around people because of negative feelings
• You wallow even if when there’s no valid reason
• You have suicidal ideations
• You’re waiting for a ‘Prince Charming or saving Grace
• You have unrealistic expectations with no plan
• You are not consistent with yourself and/or others
• You’re like a boat in the ocean, just going with the flow
• You feel like no one understands you or like you’re wearing a mask

As you can see, there are many behaviors that are normal to society that disguise diffidence. There’s nothing with having these moments, but the important thing to remember is you can’t stay there.

Yes, there are lessons that come during these times but you must persevere. You cannot allow yourself to stay at this low vibration because after a while it starts to eat at the person your people know and love.

And yes, they love you. We love you. I love you.

As a person, you are worth more than you’ll ever know and even when life throws tomatoes, you may get hit a few times, but once you understand what’s happening, you can start catching them and making the beautiful crafts and foods that come to mind.

It’s easy to say to never let yourself feel like this but that would be unrealistic. We have to go through these moments to learn more about ourselves and recalibrate to higher vibrations as necessary. Think of these moments as opportunities to detox and preen your life, as you prepare for a higher level of living. And know, you will get through it.

The Remedy

As I’ve said many times, you’re not the only one that experiences these moments. They are normal, so please don’t be hard on yourself.

Full transparency: I’ve had more than enough of my share of forgetting my self worth or having it depleted. Shucks, I find myself getting out of a similar period at the time of this blog.

A lot of people tend to hide behind masks. By getting this far, you’ve shown yourself that you are willing to heal. You will come out stronger than ever during this time. You may feel like you’re no one or you’re going nowhere. This is where you get the opportunity to fall more in love with yourself. You can also elevate to a higher place mentally.

This is the time to love on yourself and rediscover old passions and new interests.

When you find yourself in a rut like this, try some of the ideas below. Or get creative and tweak it to your liking. As long as you are showing up and showing out for yourself, you can’t go wrong:

• Take a break from your environment
  • Go on a road trip
  • Go to your favorite places or discover new places, especially ones you’ve always wanted to visit. A change of scenery can help anyone get out of a funk
• Get some sun
  • A bit of Vitamin D goes a long way
• Speaking of Vitamin D……
  • Regardless of your preference, all I can say is an orgasm a day, or several, keeps the stress at bay!
• Take a break from social media
  • Social media can play a big role in making us feel shitty or stuck. Sometimes a break is warranted. Stay away from what society tells you to be and take that time to redefine it for yourself.
• Hype yourself up!
  • Speak positive quotes and affirmations to yourself, especially in a mirror. It always helps to incorporate this into a daily routine.
• Listen or watch music, videos, or podcasts that uplift you
  • Sing your heart out, do some karaoke, and allow yourself to be in the current moment. Don’t let your feelings and life wear you down.
• Do things that make you happy, like reading books
  • The goal is to focus on activities that make you feel good without a negative effect.
• Slow down
  • Look at this time like it’s the recovery period after a spiritual or energetical surgery. Something has been removed or no longer fits and it’s time to heal from that.
• Meditate
• Take a break from people
  • Sometimes you need to distance yourself from people that put unrealistic expectations in your mind and hold you back.
• Be around people
  • In other cases, you may have a tribe that pours into you when you are running empty. Spend time with these folks. Just make sure you’re not doing it excessively as an excuse to avoid your feelings and thoughts.

Tighten Up

Life will throw all it has at us. So will family, career, business, etc. No one can truly comprehend how it affects each person on an individual level except for that person. It is up to them. It is up to you. Figure out how to get back up when you find yourself in the trenches.

You are an invaluable person and resource to yourself and others. We need you to show up and be all that you were meant to be in this lifetime. Don’t give up the fight and remember, you are NOT in this alone.

P.S. Let’s get back to you being spic and spankin and remember:

YOU ARE WORTHY OF EVERYTHING YOU WANT